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A Big Announcement: I’m joining The Nantucket Project team! 2

A Big Announcement: I’m joining The Nantucket Project team!

Posted by on Dec 29, 2016 in Courage, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Some Nerve

Starting January 4 I will be joining The Nantucket Project (TNP) as Communications Director. TNP brings the world’s leading thinkers and creators together to explore the question “What really matters in a noisy and messy world?” Past presenters incl Tony Blair, Steve Case, Peter Thiel, Julie Taymor, Deepak Chopra, Seth Godin, Kelly Corrigan, and

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A Surprise from Mrs. E., and our Holiday Wish for You 0

A Surprise from Mrs. E., and our Holiday Wish for You

Posted by on Dec 24, 2016 in Christmas, Facing Forty Upside Down, Some Nerve

Mrs. E was my 8th grade social studies teacher. I feared and admired her. She was petite, Asian American, strict, and terrifying – I told G and R how I once cried in front of her when I got a B (i.e., an Asian F).  Since Some Nerve came out, we’ve reconnected, even getting our families together and now G and R think I’m nuts. “She’s so nice, how could you have been afraid of her?” (She gave us those ornaments above.) And yes, now that I’m a parent I see – her high expectations were just another way of saying “I care about you and your future.” She told me Some Nerve resonated for her and her approval meant the world to me – at last, an Asian A! Then a package arrived, a beautiful hand-knotted blanket in Some Nerve yellow and blue. “You are an inspiration to me and to countless others,” the card read. “I made this throw in your honor.” G pointed out the diving figures sewn in, and then looked up at me. “Wait, are you CRYING?” G asked. “Did Mrs. E. make you cry AGAIN??” Yes, she did. With gratitude, for all of it – the tough love, and the generous, open hearted,...

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Give the gift of Some Nerve! Comments Off on Give the gift of Some Nerve!

Give the gift of Some Nerve!

Posted by on Dec 18, 2016 in Facing Forty Upside Down, Some Nerve

Know anyone dealing with anxiety? (Er, anyone??) Some Nerve books, T-shirts, and 1-1 coaching certificates are available – contact me (patty@pattychanganker.com) for details.     Better Homes & Gardens says Some Nerve is “a lesson plan in courage 101.” Let’s give your loved ones a bigger, braver life! Some Nerve is available at Galapagos Bookstore, Turn of the Corkscrew, Northshire Bookstore, Womrath Bookstore, Book Culture, Powell’s and Amazon. Or request it from your local bookseller. Share: Facebook Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Google+...

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And she’s off…R’s First Kids Triathlon! 8

And she’s off…R’s First Kids Triathlon!

Posted by on Dec 13, 2016 in Bicycling, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Favorite Posts, Kid milestone, running, triathlon, Trying new things

10 yo R completed the Zoot Westchester Kids Triathlon 2016 in Rye, NY this fall – I took some time to write the race report because, well, you’ll see. There was much to report! Enjoy. For as long as I can remember, R has been running away from me. Slap slap slap, the sound of her sneakers and laughter floating on the breeze. The imprint on my body from the most recent vigorous hug a reminder that as much as R was here a minute ago, now she’s off. Seeing what’s around the bend. R sometimes gets held up at the start of new things. She was afraid to go into the swimming pool at first. She took several early spills off her bike followed by swearing she was quitting forever. But once she gets going, she keeps going. Never mind that she’s five years younger than her big sister G; R would set her sights on catching up to her at full speed. “I want to do a kids’ triathlon!” she declared after watching me finish the Westchester Olympic Distance Triathlon last year. It would mean a lot of swim and bike practice, but she was up for it. I was thrilled to share my love of the...

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Thanksgiving Turkey with a side of Pre Trauma Stress Disorder. Thanks 2016. Comments Off on Thanksgiving Turkey with a side of Pre Trauma Stress Disorder. Thanks 2016.

Thanksgiving Turkey with a side of Pre Trauma Stress Disorder. Thanks 2016.

Posted by on Nov 24, 2016 in anxiety, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down

“We have a lot to be thankful for,” my husband said last night. I was lying in bed at 9:30 pm, the night before Thanksgiving, depleted and sad. “I know,’ I said. “But it doesn’t feel like enough, that WE’RE ok…for now.” It’s like having a Pre-Trauma-Stress-Disorder. The violence and stripping away of rights are coming, we can feel it in our bones.

UGH! What dark and despairing thoughts to have at Thanksgiving! Then I remember,

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