Growing up I looked for black-haired girls everywhere: on the covers of books and magazines, on television, in leadership roles, longing to see someone who looked like me. I still feel a kinship toward black-haired girls of all ages, which is why it was an exceptional pleasure this week to speak with members of Asian Women in Business, a terrific networking organization full of role models like its president, powerhouse Bonnie Wong. We talked about how to access our most courageous selves, regardless of our genes (why do we have such thin wrists?), our upbringing and cultural expectations.
One of my favorite moments came when I had to stop the partner-exercise (people were talking about their Fear Stories – where their fear came from, and the room was full of lively chatter) and I said “exchange emails so you can continue this later” and a flurry of business cards and smartphones came out as new connections were made. Fear crumbles in the face of friends and contacts willing to listen. You could hear it crumbling all around us.
The #SomeNerve Challenges that emerged were so exciting I am already eagerly awaiting updates.
And these amazing women trekked across town (one had to go back to Long Island) in a polar vortex to attend and then tweeted this:
Yes, we sure do.
The moment I first saw the cover art for Some Nerve and saw the black-haired girl diving through sunshine into water, I gasped. There she is! The girl I’ve been looking for! The day G first saw the cover of Some Nerve she pointed to the black-haired girl , saying “Hey, that looks like me!”
When we are strong, people around us believe in themselves a little more too. The women of AWIB are already movers and shakers – the impact of this group taking bolder steps in different areas of their lives is going to be a great thing for the world.