Posts by Patty Chang Anker

Overcoming Obstacles (when the obstacle is you) 4

Overcoming Obstacles (when the obstacle is you)

Posted by on Mar 19, 2014 in anxiety, Babble Reinvention, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down

We’ve all been there: We make a plan. We have every intention of seeing it through. And then … the kids get sick. The car breaks down. Snow days, work assignments, bills pop up. People we need to support our endeavors begin making themselves scarce. Sigh. If your next thoughts sound like this: I knew I wouldn’t be able to accomplish my goal. I’m not strong enough, I’m too tired, it’s not worth it. This is what always happens — I’m trapped and there’s no way out. Then HOLD ON RIGHT THERE! What’s blocking the way is not just the sick kid or the unexpected bills. It’s our own thinking, and while there’s no magic wand for croup, we can free ourselves from the chains of our own design. Here’s how: 1) Break Through by Breathing Negative thought patterns bind you in a never-ending loop. Two deep breaths — the first to relax the body and the second to clear the mind — can set you free: Step 1. Inhale, squeeze your muscles tight (make fists, scrunch your face, squeeze your legs together). Step 2. Exhale, let your muscles go. (Imagine taking off your Spanx and being able to breathe.) Step 3. Staying soft and relaxed with eyes closed, inhale deeply to the count of three...

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Why women’s networking groups work 4

Why women’s networking groups work

Posted by on Mar 13, 2014 in #SomeNerve Challenge, Driving, Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, mentoring, publicity, publishing, Remembering - Special people, Riverhead, Some Nerve, Writing

Twenty years ago I became involved with the Women’s Media Group, a networking organization that is celebrating its 40th Anniversary this year. At our recent annual business luncheon at the 21 Club  founding member Joni Evans reflected on the media landscape then and now, and I was asked to share how WMG shaped my career (which it has, substantially). I wrote my remarks with the WMG Stories Project in mind, which aims to capture  what it was like to be a woman in the media business at different times. I both laughed and cried writing my piece, thinking of the remarkable women I’ve found through WMG. My remarks below: “Don’t Put All the Agents at One Table” and other Lessons Learned at the Women’s Media Group by Patty Chang Anker I first came to the Women’s Media Group 20 years ago, back in 1993. Bill Clinton was president, 24 hour cable news was the new thing, and WMG RSVPs were taken by fax and P.O. Box. I was a publicity and rights assistant to Lois Shapiro, an associate publisher at Basic Books. Those of you who knew Lois will remember how exuberant she was. Our corner of the floor was the most raucous – every time Lois hung up her...

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Hosting a Kids Birthday Party at Home – Elizabeth faces her fear and does it anyway! 4

Hosting a Kids Birthday Party at Home – Elizabeth faces her fear and does it anyway!

Posted by on Mar 5, 2014 in anxiety, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fan Fun, Happy Birthday, parenting

It’s about to be birthday season in our household (both G & R’s birthdays are next week) and along with the excitement, hopes and anticipation can come a measure of anxiety for parents doing the planning, especially if the parties are going to be at home. My friend Elizabeth, who can host other family and friend gatherings without stress felt much more trepidation about having a kids party at home. “Something about the idea of having lots of small kids in my care in my home sets off my alarm bells….my subconscious imagines kids upstairs, kids downstairs, kids outside, kids running off, kids crying and/or shouting around, and maybe worst of all, kids deciding they are bored and want to go home.”   Elizabeth went ahead and organized a clown party for her son J’s 6th birthday (with the great clown treats above), setting an official party time of 2 1/2 hours and getting clown materials to play with. “This let me go into the party with a lot more confidence,” she said.   “I was getting pretty anxious ahead of time, but the turning point came when J’s 10 year old brother set and decorated the table for me unasked. What a great help.” After the party, she wrote...

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How to Buy a Bike (and Survive Your First Test Ride) – A Team #SomeNerve TD 5-Boro Bike Tour Update 12

How to Buy a Bike (and Survive Your First Test Ride) – A Team #SomeNerve TD 5-Boro Bike Tour Update

Posted by on Mar 4, 2014 in #SomeNerve Challenge, Bicycling, Events, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Some Nerve

If bike stores intimidate you even a little, this photo-tutorial “How to Buy a Bike” –  just published on Bike New York‘s Biking the Big Apple blog – is for you! Tutorial by Bike New York, written by Patty Chang Anker, photos by Sam Polcer (author of the upcoming “New York Bike Style”). Enjoy – and then go buy a bike! Ready for a challenge? Join Team #SomeNerve for the TD Five Boro Bike Tour on May 4 – General registration is closed but we have just a few spots left on our team. Contact me for more info. “That one’s pretty” is not the way to buy a bike, Dan Suraci teased, as if reading my mind. We were at Redbeard Bikes in Brooklyn, NY, and the rows of bikes all looked the same to me, so all I had to go on were the ones with pretty colors. Dan was leading a Bike New York How to Buy a Bike tutorial to teach me the major differences between bikes, and help me pick a ride for the TD Five Boro Bike Tour. As a bicycling beginner, the thought of going into a bike shop without understanding makes/models, components/accessories, price/value, was intimidating. “Even experienced bicyclists can find all the choices overwhelming, “ Dan said–thus...

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