Posts by Patty Chang Anker

Why #BanBossy Matters Even More to Women of Color – at 2

Why #BanBossy Matters Even More to Women of Color – at

Posted by on Mar 21, 2014 in Asian American, Courage, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Failure, fear of rejection, leadership, Some Nerve

I’ve had many lively conversations recently about Sheryl Sandberg’s #BanBossy campaign and was interviewed by Ruchika Tulshyan at for her column “Why Ban Bossy Matters Even More to Women of Color” published today. As Tulshyan writes: Love it or hate it, chances are you’ve heard of Sheryl Sandberg’s “Ban Bossy” campaign. “Words like bossy send a message: don’t raise your hand or speak up. By middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys—a trend that continues into adulthood,” according to the campaign’s website. With the help of the Girl Scouts, Beyonce, Condoleezza Rice and other heavy hitters, Sandberg is attempting to stamp out the “B” word. The campaign has received an overwhelmingly negative response so far. Mainstream media has been “Ban Bossy’s” harshest critic. And the backlash has come primarily from white feminists. Absent from this conversation is diverse voices; Americans who are raising their children in more than one culture.  This is a shame, because I find “Ban Bossy” has a big opportunity to effect real change among immigrant communities. Read the rest at And for the record: A reader asked me on Facebook if banning words is the answer. My reply: I’m not into banning words – just the awareness that the words we choose...

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A “Planet of the Apes” Fear-Facing Viewing Party hosted by Sheri Silver? Ooh ooh ah ah! Comments Off on A “Planet of the Apes” Fear-Facing Viewing Party hosted by Sheri Silver? Ooh ooh ah ah!

A “Planet of the Apes” Fear-Facing Viewing Party hosted by Sheri Silver? Ooh ooh ah ah!

Posted by on Mar 20, 2014 in #SomeNerve Challenge, Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fan Fun, Some Nerve

One of the most hilarious, delicious, and surreal evenings to have come out of the #SomeNerve Challenge campaign is the Planet of the Apes viewing party Sheri Silver recently hosted complete with Sheri’s Monkey Chow, Just 1 More Cookie Adrian Harris Forman’s Monkey Cookies and Banana Pudding, and me scaring everyone (myself included) silly with a rubber chimp mask. Sheri’s fear, though had nothing to do with the apes! Head over to Sheri Silver’s Donuts, Dresses and Dirt blog today for the full story, recipes, and a screenshot of a scantily clad Charlton Heston (she wasn’t afraid of him either).  Ooh ooh ah ah! Share: Facebook Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Google+...

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Overcoming Obstacles (when the obstacle is you) 4

Overcoming Obstacles (when the obstacle is you)

Posted by on Mar 19, 2014 in anxiety, Babble Reinvention, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down

We’ve all been there: We make a plan. We have every intention of seeing it through. And then … the kids get sick. The car breaks down. Snow days, work assignments, bills pop up. People we need to support our endeavors begin making themselves scarce. Sigh. If your next thoughts sound like this: I knew I wouldn’t be able to accomplish my goal. I’m not strong enough, I’m too tired, it’s not worth it. This is what always happens — I’m trapped and there’s no way out. Then HOLD ON RIGHT THERE! What’s blocking the way is not just the sick kid or the unexpected bills. It’s our own thinking, and while there’s no magic wand for croup, we can free ourselves from the chains of our own design. Here’s how: 1) Break Through by Breathing Negative thought patterns bind you in a never-ending loop. Two deep breaths — the first to relax the body and the second to clear the mind — can set you free: Step 1. Inhale, squeeze your muscles tight (make fists, scrunch your face, squeeze your legs together). Step 2. Exhale, let your muscles go. (Imagine taking off your Spanx and being able to breathe.) Step 3. Staying soft and relaxed with eyes closed, inhale deeply to the count of three...

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Why women’s networking groups work 4

Why women’s networking groups work

Posted by on Mar 13, 2014 in #SomeNerve Challenge, Driving, Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, mentoring, publicity, publishing, Remembering - Special people, Riverhead, Some Nerve, Writing

Twenty years ago I became involved with the Women’s Media Group, a networking organization that is celebrating its 40th Anniversary this year. At our recent annual business luncheon at the 21 Club  founding member Joni Evans reflected on the media landscape then and now, and I was asked to share how WMG shaped my career (which it has, substantially). I wrote my remarks with the WMG Stories Project in mind, which aims to capture  what it was like to be a woman in the media business at different times. I both laughed and cried writing my piece, thinking of the remarkable women I’ve found through WMG. My remarks below: “Don’t Put All the Agents at One Table” and other Lessons Learned at the Women’s Media Group by Patty Chang Anker I first came to the Women’s Media Group 20 years ago, back in 1993. Bill Clinton was president, 24 hour cable news was the new thing, and WMG RSVPs were taken by fax and P.O. Box. I was a publicity and rights assistant to Lois Shapiro, an associate publisher at Basic Books. Those of you who knew Lois will remember how exuberant she was. Our corner of the floor was the most raucous – every time Lois hung up her...

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