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“We have a lot to be thankful for,” my husband said last night. I was lying in bed at 9:30 pm, the night before Thanksgiving, depleted and sad. “I know,’ I said. “But it doesn’t feel like enough, that WE’RE ok…for now.” It’s like having a Pre-Trauma-Stress-Disorder. The violence and stripping away of rights are coming, we can feel it in our bones.
UGH! What dark and despairing thoughts to have at Thanksgiving! Then I remember,Learn More
Well, that was unexpected! I thought the Sleepy Hollow Sprint Triathlon would be straightforward: I’d swim a half mile in the Hudson River (yes, that sounds a bit crazy -triathletes are totally mental!) and then Kent would ride like the wind while I rested and cheered for Team #SomeNerve, and then I’d walk our daughter G through her first 5K as anchor to our Anker Family Relay. After doing the Westchester Olympic Triathlon at double the distance on my own last year I thought this wouldn’t be too bad. No drama, I told myself as I waited in my gold cap with the last wave of swimmers to enter. Get ‘er done. Ha! I should have known triathlons are anything but straightforward! After a promising start – the skies were clear, the water looked flat, my anxiety (ever since I almost drowned on a river as a teen I’ve had a hate-hate relationship with rivers) was under control with my Team in Training Swim Angel alongside, I was going my slow and steady pace hoping to not fall too far behind – something unprecedented happened. I started catching up to swimmers from earlier waves. There’s a purple cap – I won’t be last! Wow, there’s a silver cap, I’m rocking this! Hm, that next...Learn More
Ah, the first bike ride! A joyful rite of passage, right? For parents, it just doesn’t get better than running alongside, steadying the small bike, giving a push and…Look at our kid go! Or…not.
If your child is anxious (heck, if you are anxious), learning how to ride a bike can be stressful. I share my 9 tips for getting reluctant riders to ride at Liv-cycling.com today in
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The absolute best part of telling people you do triathlons is when they do a double take. You? A triathlete? I know, I’m 45, with exercise-induced asthma and arthritic knees. A year and a half ago I couldn’t bike around the block, and I have long been afraid of the ocean. But YES, I became a triathlete and so did all 47 of my double-take instigating teammates from the Rye Y TRIBE when we raced in the IronGirl Sprint Triathlon in Sandy Hook, NJ on Sept 13. “We show women, many of whom didn’t even exercise before, how to swim, bike, run, and race a sprint distance (.3 mi swim, 14 mi bike, 5K run),” said Laura Tiedge, the Senior Director of Healthy Living at the Rye Y. “It’s incredibly inspiring to see women of all ages, all shapes, all backgrounds out there on race day.” Indeed, TRIBE had the oldest participant in the event that day on our team (Katie, 73), a mother-daughter duo, cancer survivors, lifelong couch potatoes (raising hand), and a slew of women who’d focused on work and family and never saw themselves on a race course. Until, amazingly (after months of pool clinics, spin classes, and track runs), they were. There’s Diane (left), a nurse and mother of two, and...Learn More
Have you ever worked really hard for a long time toward a goal and then hit a wall? Yeah, me too. I’ve followed doctors orders and had my body rebel, I’ve painstakingly revised work that never saw the light of day, and most recently, while training with Rye Tribe for the IronGirl Sprint Triathlon on Sept 13 (and my first Olympic distance triathlon, Zoot Westchester Triathlon on Sept 27), I got stung by SEA LICE!!!! I will pause for you to shriek EW! WHAT IS THAT? DOES THAT REALLY EXIST? COULD I GET STUNG BY SEA LICE? OMG! WTH? EW! EW! EW! Yes, exactly. When I hit a wall, I find the hardest part is determining how big the wall actually is, if it’s surmountable or a deal breaker. I have hit so many walls facing my fear of open water – I’ve dealt with panic attacks, flashbacks (see Some Nerve for the story of how I almost drowned on a river as a teen), seaweed, swallowing water right off of RYE PLAYLAND amusement park for crying out loud (I have done some crying out loud over this, actually) – and I keep bravely going in because I have something to prove. I have told myself and others that I don’t want to...Learn More