Fear of Failure

Are Women’s Groups Necessary in an Age of Hillary Clinton? Speaking to Smith College Alums on a Historic Day Comments Off on Are Women’s Groups Necessary in an Age of Hillary Clinton? Speaking to Smith College Alums on a Historic Day

Are Women’s Groups Necessary in an Age of Hillary Clinton? Speaking to Smith College Alums on a Historic Day

Posted by on Jul 29, 2016 in Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Failure, leadership, mentoring, Public Speaking/Stage Fright, Some Nerve, Women's empowerment

I love speaking to women’s empowerment groups. I’m often asked (yes, by men) if women’s groups are even necessary anymore, in an age of Hillary Clinton breaking the highest glass ceilings. Aren’t women empowered enough? I have to put on my most patient face and say “A big crack in the biggest glass ceiling is tremendous. But it’s not like there’s only one glass ceiling.”

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How to Think Outside the Box 9

How to Think Outside the Box

Posted by on Oct 29, 2015 in Aging gracefully (more or less), Courage, Events, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Becoming Boring, Fear of Change, Fear of Failure, fear of rejection, fitness, midlife, Public Speaking/Stage Fright, Relaxation, Some Nerve, travel, triathlon, Trying new things, Writing

“Think outside the box” is advice you often hear. But what if you’re STUCK in a box, a routine, a view of yourself or how others view you? Options for doing things differently may seem like too much effort (“That could be hard, and it might not work”) or just plain ludicrous (“That’s just not me!”). It can be easier to decorate your box and make it more comfortable than ever by sticking with what you know and calling it self-awareness. How many times have we said “I don’t do that,” end of discussion, thereby tying up the box with a bow? I was a master box-builder. I did what I was competent at (career, family) and what I had to do (housework). Outside the box meant outside my comfort zone, which meant the possibility of failure, and as the child of Chinese immigrants, failure = falling into an endless black abyss, SO WHO THE HECK WANTED TO GO THERE? But IN the box, was fear, restlessness, children who wanted to run free, and once I slowly let them, there was me yearning for something more. When I started Facing Forty Upside Down, I started with baby steps, learning to dive into a pool, to do a handstand, proving that I...

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What I found at the Westchester Olympic Triathlon 15

What I found at the Westchester Olympic Triathlon

Posted by on Sep 29, 2015 in Bicycling, Courage, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Failure, Firsts, fitness, running, Some Nerve, triathlon, Trying new things, Water/Swimming

Dear Family, Friends, Supporters and Especially Donors: I’m teary as I write this. I finished the Westchester Olympic Distance Triathlon on Sunday. For the first time in my life, I swam .9 mi in open water…then biked 25 hilly miles…then ran 6.2 miles. In a row. In typical Patty fashion, however, it was not straightforward. “Patty, it couldn’t go smoothly, because it’s you we’re talking about,” Kent said after all the celebrating. “There had to be drama.” And so there was. It all started off beautifully. My friend Penny (who does triathlons to “mix it up” during marathon training) drove us to Rye at 5 am to set up. It was dark and chilly but I was wide awake. Awake, but not entirely with it. Kent snapped the picture below two seconds before the horn went off. My swim angel, Ellen (in the plum cap, looking at me) is saying “Er, you may want to put your goggles on.” The race began at sunrise – could there be a more auspicious start? The water was pretty flat close to shore and for a while Ellen and I swam comfortably behind the pack, but then we reached the end of the pier where it was less protected and quite choppy...

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Make 2015 the Year You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Comments Off on Make 2015 the Year You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Make 2015 the Year You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Posted by on Jan 27, 2015 in facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Becoming Boring, Fear of Change, Fear of Failure, fear of rejection, Some Nerve, Trying new things

    Tune in TODAY at 1pm EST to “Some Nerve: Make 2015 the Year You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone” a free tele seminar hosted by the Conferences for Women. We’ll be talking about why comfort zones are so darn comfortable and what happens when we venture out of them. Don’t worry, I won’t make you leave your cozy house to go out into Snowmageddon!  Register here. Share: Facebook Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Google+...

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How to Succeed in Publishing Today – Insight, Advice from Women’s Media Group Book Expo Panels 4

How to Succeed in Publishing Today – Insight, Advice from Women’s Media Group Book Expo Panels

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Failure, fear of technology, leadership, mentoring, midlife, publishing

Last week, booksellers, librarians, media and publishers gathered at the Javits Center in New York City for Book Expo America (BEA), the publishing industry’s largest convention in North America.  In celebration of 40 years supporting women in publishing, Women’s Media Group (WMG) presented three conference sessions about the most important issues currently facing women in our industry. As WMG secretary, I took notes madly, trying to keep up with all the great insights coming from the panelists.  Here are some top takeaways from each discussion (with apologies for the blurry photos snapped by members – our hands must have been shaking with excitement!): The New Success Tracks for Women: Publishing Careers in a Time of Change Entry level jobs in publishing, while full of seemingly menial tasks, can often teach lessons successful women in publishing use for the rest of their careers. “As a marketing assistant,  my job was to make sure the sales reps had everything they needed,,” said Libby McGuire, Publisher of Ballantine, Bantam, Dell. “Giving the reps the information and materials they needed to sell the books taught me that you have 10 seconds to convey the book.” Throughout her career “That skill drove the way we approached every book we acquired, asking, ‘how will the rep sell...

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