Facing Forty Upside Down

Fear of Writing: Family Memoir Comments Off on Fear of Writing: Family Memoir

Fear of Writing: Family Memoir

Posted by on Mar 23, 2016 in Facing Forty Upside Down

I recently had the honor of being a guest author at Linda Lowen‘s non-fiction class at the Downtown Writers Center of the YMCA of Greater Syracuse (via FaceTime chat) and I enjoyed their questions so much I thought I’d share some of the discussion here with all of you. The class, “Why You Need Some Nerve to Write,” looked at Some Nerve and the fear of failure. The students’ pointed questions about the fear of exposure that comes with “going public” with oneself (and especially with family stories) is at the heart of what most of us are afraid of in life – being rejected, hurting our loved ones – and that writers feel on a sometimes seemingly unbearable scale. Telling our stories is always optional, so why risk it? And what is the cost of not telling our stories at all? I’ve paraphrased (i.e., shortened, made more coherent) my answers for this blog.  For a person who started out so very fearful, how did you get the nerve to put yourself out there in the public eye, or was that never a problem? Ha! I wrote an entire book about my countless fears, of course I was afraid of putting myself out there! I still am, and I suspect part...

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NEXT ACTS: A Some Nerve Workshop for Reinventing Moms Comments Off on NEXT ACTS: A Some Nerve Workshop for Reinventing Moms

NEXT ACTS: A Some Nerve Workshop for Reinventing Moms

Posted by on Feb 2, 2016 in Courage, Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Fear of Change, parenting, Some Nerve, Trying new things

If there’s one thing I know, it’s what it feels like to be a reinventing mom. It takes a special kind of courage to set new goals after years of focused parenting and to achieve them while balancing the needs of others. I can’t wait to lead a Some Nerve workshop especially for moms: Friday, February 26 9 am – 12 noon Purpl 52 Main Street Hastings on Hudson, NY 10706 $68 Register Here Workshop description below – please share with the moms in your life – and if you’re a mom looking for more, I hope to see you there! NEXT ACTS: A Some Nerve Workshop for Reinventing Moms Once the kids are in school it’s mom’s turn to figure out “What’s next for me?”  Career change? Get fit? Clear clutter? Write a book? Find my true self? Ack! If the thought of a new direction (or finally tackling long held goals) is a little…er, scary, then join us for a special workshop with Patty Chang Anker, author of SOME NERVE: Lessons Learned While Becoming Brave (“Mom Must Read,” Parents Magazine), and discover how to de-escalate fear’s power and make your next act the greatest it can be. We’ll address self-doubt and fear of failure, challenge old habits and create new ways of thinking. We’ll identify...

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Don’t Think, Just Go: Facing 40 with a Spartan Race & America’s Got Talent – A Guest Post by @Miradorable 4

Don’t Think, Just Go: Facing 40 with a Spartan Race & America’s Got Talent – A Guest Post by @Miradorable

Posted by on Jan 27, 2016 in Asian American, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, fitness, running, Trying new things

When I first met Karlene at an Asian Women in Business event, she seemed perfectly normal.  She’d ventured out in the Polar Vortex to see me speak about Some Nerve; I told her she seemed plenty brave already. I had no idea! It turns out she has an amazing “Facing Forty Upside Down” story, one that inspired me to try triathlon. I asked her to share it in a guest blog – I can’t wait to see what sparks she lights in YOU!  DON’T THINK, JUST GO Guest blog by Karleen Mirador Haines (@Miradorable) After you turn 27 or 28 when someone asks how old you are, you tend to forget. On my 39th birthday I was jolted, suddenly reminded: Oh crap, that means I’m “turning 40”. I moped for a bit, but quickly remembered some of the great things that kept me feeling young. Young enough to forget that the sun was setting, that my wrinkles were deepening, that I’d have to stock up on hair dye. Things like: running around to clean up after my husband, being a busy executive at a non-profit and an adjunct professor at the local college, having fun friends, recently losing some weight and parenting my 4 year old son. He embodied...

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Snow Day Snow Candy! Comments Off on Snow Day Snow Candy!

Snow Day Snow Candy!

Posted by on Jan 23, 2016 in cooking, Facing Forty Upside Down, recipe, snow day

“Didhth you linkth to ah recipe ongh yur blog?” 14 yo G asks. Her teeth are stuck together. We’re eating Snow Candy, the first of the season. It tastes particularly good this time. “It’s because I gathered the freshest snow!” 9 yo R exclaims. Her teeth are not stuck together because she prefers eating her snow plain. It’s coming down outside, and inside we’re making like Laura Ingalls, cooking, eating and building furniture (well, ours is from Ikea – DH is not chopping down any trees). Here’s the post from 5 (!) winters ago with a link to the Molasses Snow Candy. Some things never go out of style. Wishing you all warmth and sweetness! Cabin Fever: What Would Laura Ingalls Do? When I was G’s age, 9, I was obsessed with Little House on the Prairie.  I remember sporting a thrift store bonnet all over my neighborhood in the Bronx, and my mother looking pained, saying “You know that’s for a baby, right?” It was partly her fault.  Having little, making do, aligned with the Chinese immigrant experience. My mother would make glue out of a little bit of rice, dolls out of scraps of cloth.  We would sew duvet covers by hand, make playdough with slightly off colors – it...

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TODAY 10 am – Sign Up Begins for TD Five Boro Bike Tour – Join Team #SomeNerve for an Epic Ride! Comments Off on TODAY 10 am – Sign Up Begins for TD Five Boro Bike Tour – Join Team #SomeNerve for an Epic Ride!

TODAY 10 am – Sign Up Begins for TD Five Boro Bike Tour – Join Team #SomeNerve for an Epic Ride!

Posted by on Jan 12, 2016 in Bicycling, Events, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, fitness, Some Nerve

TODAY 10 am –  TD 5 Boro Bike Tour Signup begins! Join Team ‪#‎SomeNerve‬ for an epic day on May 1, riding 40 miles, no cars, up through Manhattan and Central Park, down the FDR (the FDR!), across the Queensboro Bridge, the Verrazano Bridge (and 3 other bridges), the BQE, and with incredible views of the city and to the sound of live bands and cheerleaders. Don’t delay – this event will sell out! Register online and message me to join Team #SomeNerve. Pics/stories from 2015 and 2014! “Definitely the highlight of 2015.” – Jason B. “Joining Team #SomeNerve took the amazing experience of the TD Five Boro Tour and amped it up to 11! I had so much fun riding with your team and being able to help support some of the riders…and the pride on everyone’s faces at the finish festival was so rewarding. I can not wait to do this again next year with the team.” – Big Joe “What a perfect day! I started out riding with Jason and Angie, quickly got separated from them, met up with Joe and Ed after Astoria Park, and finished the last stretch with Marco. Thanks goodness for the bright yellow shirts so we could find each other.  I liked the variety of riding alone...

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Celebrating a Brave New Year at a Brand New Bookstore – Turn of the Corkscrew Books & Wine, Rockville Center NY 1

Celebrating a Brave New Year at a Brand New Bookstore – Turn of the Corkscrew Books & Wine, Rockville Center NY

Posted by on Jan 11, 2016 in Courage, Events, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Some Nerve, Water/Swimming

If you’re like me, spending a cold rainy afternoon in a cozy shop surrounded by books, wine (or hot tea), and friends old and new telling stories is pretty much heaven – and that’s what our family enjoyed at Turn of the Corkscrew Books and Wine this weekend. Every time we visit a local independent bookstore we rejoice – but this time there was special cause for celebration. When I first met Carol Hoenig she told me about her and her business partner Peggy Zieran’s plans to open a bookstore. I was scared for them in today’s market, where ebooks and online retailing have caused so many bookstores to falter. Do they know how hard that’s going to be? I thought. Both former Borders employees, with 35 years in publishing between them, Carol and Peggy do know the market, and believe in their vision anyway. I admired their bravery, donated to their Indiegogo fundraising campaign and followed their progress with awe and excitement as their dreams became reality and they opened their doors in the fall. It was thrilling to walk into the warm and bright store for the first time on Sunday. It’s in a renovated 100-year old house so right away, I felt my “mall face” (which is not...

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