Kid milestone

And she’s off…R’s First Kids Triathlon! 8

And she’s off…R’s First Kids Triathlon!

Posted by on Dec 13, 2016 in Bicycling, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Favorite Posts, Kid milestone, running, triathlon, Trying new things

10 yo R completed the Zoot Westchester Kids Triathlon 2016 in Rye, NY this fall – I took some time to write the race report because, well, you’ll see. There was much to report! Enjoy. For as long as I can remember, R has been running away from me. Slap slap slap, the sound of her sneakers and laughter floating on the breeze. The imprint on my body from the most recent vigorous hug a reminder that as much as R was here a minute ago, now she’s off. Seeing what’s around the bend. R sometimes gets held up at the start of new things. She was afraid to go into the swimming pool at first. She took several early spills off her bike followed by swearing she was quitting forever. But once she gets going, she keeps going. Never mind that she’s five years younger than her big sister G; R would set her sights on catching up to her at full speed. “I want to do a kids’ triathlon!” she declared after watching me finish the Westchester Olympic Distance Triathlon last year. It would mean a lot of swim and bike practice, but she was up for it. I was thrilled to share my love of the...

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“I Can Do It!” What Graduation & Recital Season Offers Kids of All Ages 1

“I Can Do It!” What Graduation & Recital Season Offers Kids of All Ages

Posted by on Jun 26, 2015 in Courage, exercise, facing fears, Facing Forty Upside Down, Karate and Martial Arts, Kid milestone, parenting, Public Speaking/Stage Fright, running, Trying new things

14 year old G graduated from middle school last night and I held it together pretty well until the very end, when the principal said “Hello High School Class of 2019!” Of all the mountains she has climbed, of all the views over the edge toward what’s to come, this one feels the most significant so far. She is nervous about high school and adulthood beyond, probably because she has overcome enough obstacles to know how much work it’s going to be. She won her grade’s Science Award and made Honor Roll this year and earned an adult 3rd kyu brown belt in karate by sparring grown men despite exhaustion and nerves: 9 year old R, meanwhile, conquered stage fright in order to play Charlie “But he doesn’t know the territory!” Cowell in a kids production of “The Music Man.” And threw herself into every Field Day activity with an “I don’t care what anyone else thinks I’m going for it” confidence that I never had at her age: But it’s not too late to get it now: I ran my first 10K! Small strides compared to our kid’s major triumphs, but why not? We all need to go for it, work and play with all of our hearts,...

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Love in a Lunchbox – Notes from Dad 6

Love in a Lunchbox – Notes from Dad

Posted by on Jun 26, 2014 in Facing Forty Upside Down, Kid milestone, parenting

  This post received 560 Likes on Instagram and 111 Likes on Facebook nearly instantly. I wish there had been a LOVE button! Yesterday, I found a stash of  napkins that 8 year old R kept from what her dad put in her lunchbox this year. “You saved these?” I asked. “Yes,” she replied. “I couldn’t save all of them. Sometimes I had to use one as a napkin, and it would break my heart.” Love that kid (and her sister). And her dad. Congratulations to all the kids finishing another school year and the parents who packed their lunches with love!     Share: Facebook Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Google+...

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Firsts: Learning to read – a big day for R 7

Firsts: Learning to read – a big day for R

Posted by on Nov 19, 2013 in Books (not Some Nerve), Facing Forty Upside Down, Firsts, Kid milestone

It’s not easy having a big sister who is 5 years older and reads encyclopedias for fun.  R at age 3, 4, 5, and 6 spent a fair amount of time trailing G in bookstores moaning, “I can’t READ….I CAN”T read…I CAN’T READ…Where are the sticker books?” There were times, when sounding out “through” vs “though” that we all wanted to throw in the towel. But last night, this happened:   7 yo R finished reading her first chapter book – Judy Blume’s Freckle Juice – all by herself. The story of a second grader who would do anything to get freckles made her giggle, wonder, worry, and finish with a satisfied “Ahhhh.” Oh, she has so many literary adventures ahead of her! Our library loving family could not be more excited or proud.     Share: Facebook Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Google+...

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Hallelujah, the wait is over! Comments Off on Hallelujah, the wait is over!

Hallelujah, the wait is over!

Posted by on Dec 25, 2011 in Christmas, Facing Forty Upside Down, Kid milestone

Before the meltdown “I AM DONE!  I CANNOT WAIT ANY MORE!  WE REHEARSED TOO MUCH!”  This was the fourth time our 5 year old R, in true diva style, quit her part as Shepherd #4 in the Christ Church Christmas pageant.  But this time, it appeared serious.  This time, she was stripping off her costume 5 minutes before service.  Angels and sheep were lining up, the choir was already seated, and R was down on the floor of the parish hall, costume strewn beside her, wailing “IT’S TOO MUCH WAITING!” I tried bribery (“Candy cane when you’re done!”) and reason (“You did all this work at the rehearsal, don’t let it go to waste”).  I tried stroking her ego (“Don’t you want everyone to see you? “) and appealed to her competitive nature (“Everyone will make a fuss over your sister”) and all she did was cry.  And then, watching her scratch – she has many allergies – I asked “Is the costume itchy?”  “YES!” A bargain was struck.  She wore the head dress, but not the robe.  “Look,” I said.  Bells were ringing.  “The waiting is over.  You’re ready to start!” I took my seat in the pew and watched my baby process with the shepherds, pretend to...

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Dear Santa, by R 4

Dear Santa, by R

Posted by on Nov 29, 2011 in Adoption, Christmas, Facing Forty Upside Down, Kid milestone, parenting

“Mommy, ” R asked, pretty much the moment we got home after Thanksgiving. Really, our bags weren’t even unpacked.  “Mommy, NOW can we write our Christmas lists for Santa?”  When I said yes she went dancing off kicking up her feet to find a marker and paper.  “OK, Mommy, you write, I’ll say.” And here is what my 5 year old said: 1)  A Bumblebee Costume 2) A cookie baking machine (aka “Easy Bake Oven”) 3) For Mommy to be my Mommy forever 4) Mercy Watson books 5) A case with monster trucks already in it. At #3 I stopped and gave her a squeeze, saying “you know that is true.”  It was kind of hard to see through the mist in my eyes for #4 and #5. R says that periodically: “will you be my mommy forever?” or its variant “Will I be your kid forever?” And I don’t know if these are questions all kids ask, if it’s about growing up and wondering how long they will feel safe and small in our arms, or if it’s rooted for her in questions about the birth mother she never knew and the foster mother she can’t quite remember.  Where do I fit in her life story?  Where does...

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